Personally, I don’t need 10 signs
to figure out whether a guy needs to be dumped or to be kept. I’ve had my fair
share of ass*les, I can smell their kind in an earshot.
For start-ups and those playing
it-will-only-happen-once-he’ll-eventually-change kinds, here’s your guide to
either call it off, or push through and pull the trigger yourself. You can
thank me later! *wink*
#1 When he made you wait because he
needs to like another girl’s photo on Facebook. Admit it; you want to stab
your guy the moment you see him liking a sexy girl’s photo. Worse, when he
made you wait because of it. Just as when it almost took you forever to dress
up and blow your hair, that’s how easy for him to neglect the efforts. Simple
things can mean a lot and you cannot just let go of what seems to be the basic.
Ever heard about the word, ‘nourish’? Then maybe I should remind you that you
need to nourish your relationship, not your social media relations with any
random girl who shows off her cleavage on Facebook!
#2 When he visits you in your house,
drunk. Respect begets respect. A guy who visits your house while
intoxicated is a guy who always has the lame excuse, “Because I want to see you.”
Truth: he just needed some place to stay
while he’s trying to sober up. He’ll never let his mother see him drunk, or
next Friday’s gonna be busted!
#3 When you were at your cuddle
moments and he mistakenly calls you by another endearment. When honey becomes sweet, nothing can
be more aggravating than that! Oh boy! I don’t even have to say anything
further. Put on some red lipstick girl, and leave!
#4 When he name calls his mom in
your presence. Who doesn’t love their moms? They’re the most beautiful
people on earth. The life they breathe, they gave to you. Nine months is too
long to carry a child in a mother’s womb, kindness should be a payback! You’re
a hard labor! Now, if your boyfriend can’t be grateful for his mom, imagine a
marriage life with him. I’d bet my life on it that he will do the same to your
mom. Can you stand it?
#5 When he leaves you while you’re
burning with fever. Here, admit exceptional circumstances. But when a
guy leaves you despite your fever because he promised his friends they will
have a good drinking spree, I’m sorry to break this up with you girl, but you
don’t matter to him. If you do, he should have stayed because that is the most
logical thing to do.
#6 When he wants you to find a job
so you can buy him stuff. Sound crazy? There are guys who don’t want to
sweat and work to buy the things they want, especially when they can manipulate
their girl to find work for the both of them. This type will be the first to
ask a fraction from your salary “because that’s how a relationship should work,”
according to them. It should be a give and take relationship, that’s what they
say. Now come to think of it, what have you actually received from him?
#7 When he tags you along with his
friends to bars so you get to pay their drinks. “Aww, hon, but my
friends want to meet you!” Screw it. How many times did he say that to you when
all the while he just wants to tag you along to the bars he and his friends
want to hop on so someone sober enough has to pay! Girlfriend, you’re no
Automated Teller Machine. Here’s the common trick they’ll do: when it’s bill
time, he’ll drop his head unto your shoulders, try to kiss your neckline, and
whispers, “Hon, I’m so drunk.” Truth: No drunk will ever say that he is drunk! Oh
wait, did he also tell you he’ll pay you back when you reach home?
#8 When he’s playing jealous over
your girlfriends all the time. Jealousy often spices up the
relationship. Sometimes, it’s nice to feel your partner is getting jealous over
someone because it makes you feel like you matter so much he doesn’t want you
for someone else. But, getting jealous over your girlfriends is totally
irrational. You need to avoid that kind of guy who wants you all for himself
and who draws you away from the people who truly loves you. That is unfair and
selfish. You have to remind yourself, who stayed and who left. Your girlfriends
are your constant stars when your night gets cold and dark.
#9 When he’s making you lie to your
parents. Let’s not be perfect. We will never run out of lies which we often
label as ‘white lies’. However, when he constantly makes you lie especially to
your parents, be watchful of the signs of Lord Voldemort. It’s not going to
make you feel better in the long run regardless your consent thereto. And you know what, your parents will always
know. Trust me. Don’t allow him to turn you into a lying daughter just to be a
girlfriend to him.
#10 When he verbally abuses you.
You think a single instance where he snarls at you a big F**k You, Go to H***,
M**therf***r, Sl*t, @#$%! with feelings (according to my girlfriend), and you
think that’s forgivable. Truth: you are allowing yourself to be abused. Some girls
get so fragile whenever a man raises his voice. While you don’t have to counter
a hot head, it definitely doesn’t give your guy the permission to verbally
abuse you as well. Abuse manifests in different forms. Often, by words, later
on, physical. Would you wait for that moment you’ll report him to the police?
Would you even report him?
If you’ve been seeing these signs
at an early stage of your relationship, you better ask yourself: is this the
kind of man I want to spend the rest of my life with?
The decision is yours.
How about you? Are you seeing other signs?
P.S. Check out my next blog about the girls your momma warned you about.
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