Lusting Relationship

Ever heard about 'no strings attached?' Yeah, you might have probably heard that one how many times already, in fact, it even became a movie starring Ashton Kutcher. Let's not dwell too much on the thought of how hot Ashton was in that movie. Let's focus on the gravity that this kind of set-up offers to people.

It sounds fun, isn't it? And I'll call you a liar if you won't agree with me on that part. It is. The thought of you hooking up with someone without having to tie up yourself into any sort of 'obligation' such as calling your partner from time to time and reporting what you have eaten for breakfast, lunch and if you get lucky, including dinner. There will be no late night checking if you are home or spending the night in bars with your other friends. Sounds, Freedom eh? For the not-so hearts or chocolates species, no strings attached set-up might just be perfect.

But, how long will this type of set-up last? When does this set-up even starts?

This commonly springs from an outdoor activity - party with friends in a bar. With high spirits and under the influence of whatever you are drinking, you happen to lock You go out with your friends, in a bar, a restaurant, or anywhere outside the perimeters of your home. Then one guy enters and your eyes locked up. He approaches you and tries to fire up a conversation. Commonly, the interest between the both of you will arise if you share a common denominator - conversation about a

relationship perhaps or a good drink. This will be followed by the comfort you feel between the both of you. And then the guy will try to buy you a drink or offer to pay for your lunch. And since both of your time's running out, you will then say, you both have a good time. If the guy asks for your number or asks to meet you again in the same place, that is the start of it all. Eventually, this will be followed by three - four meetings (given the setting that we have here in the Philippines) but to some, this will just be followed by 2 meetings the most. Until then, you will eventually both decide to meet up sometime during the night over some drinks and when alcohol is starting to sink, kissing ensues. And the rest became a blur. Now then what? Wherever you have decided to spend the night, by the time the day breaks, you will have to assess yourself whether you want to do it again or how you will have to compose yourself after what happened. Usually, it's the guys who will have to define the type of set up you have the next day. If he tells you, he had an amazing night (which any gentleman must say), and that he will call you thereafter, yet, he didn't, then forget about it. That's not the no strings attached set up we are talking about here my friend, that's what we called one night stand. But then again, if he indeed calls you and you keep doing each other without tackling the issue of defining what you have, then that is it.

I'm not saying you can't be friends, or that kind of set up won't blossom into romance. Except that, once this set up blossoms into something serious, there is no guarantee you would not lose the fun you get from it. You asking why? Simply because the consistency of hooking up with someone without any attached or underlying obligations is what makes it fun. The freedom that you have while in that set-up is what makes it fun. Once you start or decides to commit and make it a relationship, the 'hooking up' fun factor wanes and eventually, you will wish you should not have committed. And worst thing is, because you became committed  that you get to be so familiar with each other that makes it boring at the end. Save those relationships where couples are able to maintain their interests and attraction towards each other. But yes, that's more likely to happen when no strings becomes tied-up.

So how long should this last? One month? Two months? Or three months the most? The common consequence in this kind of set up though is that it's the girl who usually falls first. Yes, someone must fall. Anything physical that you consistently do to a man regardless if commitment is involved or not, can make a woman fall. Let's just say, the growing affection is grounded by the consistency of the physical connection you both have that once it starts to fade, you will miss it. It's only then you realize you're missing the person you are doing it consistently and constantly. But when I love you's start to fly in the air, that's another story. Reserve those exceptional circumstance though which ended up in marriage ... and divorce.

Seriously, there is nothing really wrong in this kind of set up IF you know how to play it well, that is, NO falling. Once you think you are into the set up so much, but you're not sure you can commit, then get out of it. That is its technicality - you hook up, then you get out. And we're not talking about guilt here because in the first place, you knew what you have signed up for. Unless you promise a wedding ring thereafter, that's something.